What Do You Feel Best Doing?

Good morning all ❤ I hope your days started off bright and sunny!

For awhile, I wondered why I didn’t really enjoy going out to bars every weekend and getting drunk. I wondered why I had more fun doing yoga or reading a good book, cooking or talking with friends. I felt like there was something wrong with the fact I wasn’t looking to party all the time. ( I know I probably write about this all the time, but oh well). Even when I did try it, it never quite cracked up to that Instagram version of fun (you know, the totally fake one, but still I think a small part of it believes it’s real on someee level).

But, the more I just follow my heart, the happier I am doing the simpler things. I have genuine fun in having deep conversations for hours, trying out new recipes, or doing yoga or walking outside. It’s almost summer now, and the air smells like a mix between bonfires and fresh bloomed flowers. When I am out there with that scent, feeling the warm air softly blowing against me, I feel peace and a huge rush of happiness. It’s simple, it doesn’t require thought, it is just beautiful, refreshing, and serene.

I am happy. And I find everyday happiness in the simplest things. I think we kind of miss out on seeing it sometimes, when our minds are racing and we are on a quest to find happiness. Our egos try to tell us happiness is this elaborate and complicated thing to come by, and that we have to be out doing crazy, picture perfect things in order to obtain it. We have to buy numerous things, have this many likes, have this many friends, be so exotic that you’ve traveled the country three times already… basically our egos tell us that enough is never enough, and that we are never enough.

And that’s why it’s so funny that there is such fulfillment and happiness in the simple, little things. It’s not about going off and doing something crazy, it’s about those midnight talks on the couch with someone you love, or the smell of coffee in the morning, the fresh air hugging your skin, the blueness of the sky. There is love, beauty, and happiness in those simple things. And maybe I just sound like a crazy hippie to you, and that’s cool I don’t really care. I’m just telling you about my experience.

Because I’ve been the girl who strived, strived, strived or more, more, more experiences but every time I was left feeling more depressed and unfulfilled. I’m finding more and more happiness in the little things, so I thought I’d share this so you can find them too.

And I just want to make it clear that I don’t think there is anything wrong with trying new things, traveling the world three times, or buying what you want. Those things can be fun, they just won’t fill up that feeling like enough will never be enough, because that’s an ego trap. Just listen to your heart, and know that you are already enough. When you fill filled up with love already, you don’t have to go out searching everywhere for it, it’s in you. So, then when you do go off on an adventure, you’ll already be happy, instead of going on a trip to prove something to yourself or to try to find happiness out there. (I’ve don’t that too, and the trips ended up not being fun at all).

Just know that you are enough. And that some of the most wonderful things in life are the simplest.

What do you feel your best doing?

Much love–Callie

A Poem: Phenomenal Woman

I read a poem recently and it quickly became one of my favorites so I thought I would share. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did ❤

Phenomenal Woman by Maya Angelou

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
–Much love, Callie ❤

Why it’s Stupid to Have Guilt Over Having Depression

My depression used to be incredibly severe. My mounting anxiety sucked. But on top of all of that, I had tremendous guilt I even had depression. I had no reason to be depressed. I had a loving family, a working body, a house, food, life was good. So, I didn’t think I had any right to feel depressed. I wasn’t sitting there thinking having a pity party about my sadness. I was a lot harder on myself, telling myself to snap out of it, that I didn’t have any reason/right to be feeling that way.

But that only made it worse. And what I finally realized was that it’s perfectly okay to feel depressed, even if you don’t see an external reason. It’s okay to sometimes feel separate, alone, anxious, sad… we are human, so we should give ourselves a break. Give yourself some love instead of criticism, and slowly you’ll find your way out of it. Here are some tips that helped me get rid of mine… and it doesn’t mean that I don’t still have moments of utter confusion or sadness, but there a lot less frequent.

1.) Change your diet. Processed foods, animal products, and crap fuel for your body will bog you down and make you feel crappy.

2.) Exercise. I would perpetually get super excited for my new workout routine, only to follow it for about a week and then give up. But then I decided to start smaller. Set your goal to walk 3-4 times a week, a mile each time. Build up your routine little by little to make sure it sticks, just make sure you’re moving and getting fresh air.

3.) Get tested for metal toxicity. I had toxic levels of aluminum in my system, contributing a lot to my depression and anxiety. I got rid of it naturally by taking holistic medicine.

4.) Meditate. Sometimes clearing your head (or quieting the constant chatter just a bit) can help you get out of the suffocating thoughts and gain a little perspective on everything.

5.) Breathe. Sometimes when we feel anxiety or deep sadness we forget to take deep breaths. By breathing deeply you ground yourself and bring yourself back to the present moment.

I know all of these tips are simple, but they work. I know, because I’ve done them all and it has helped me immensely. Make sure to remember to give yourself a break and lots of love.

–Much love–Callie

 

You have more than one “soul mate”

I’ve never really understood the concept of a “forever person” or “your one soul mate”. Even when I was younger, the idea that there is one special person you’re supposed to find, marry, and then grow old with seemed exhausting. I was only like eight when I remember thinking how tiring it would be to scour every corner of the world trying to find them. The idea seemed scary, unappealing, and stressful, so I put it out of my mind.

But that message never really leaves our minds. Instead, it seems to grow bigger as we grow older. We are constantly bombarded with messages from the media and society that it’s essential to find your soul mate and one true love, but I don’t buy any of that. I don’t think there is just one single person out there for us. There are billionssss of people in this world, and we are supposed to honestly think there is only one match for us?

I don’t doubt that there are soul connections, because I’ve felt them. I’ve gotten that little flutter in my gut when I met someone and felt like I already knew them. But that feeling wasn’t limited to relationships with guys. I’ve had that feeling with friends I’ve met, people I’ve worked with, and yes-even some intimate relationships. But, just because I got that feeling didn’t mean I wanted to tie them down and claim them as mine, because that didn’t seem quite right either.

I think it’s a lot easier to flow with life instead of trying to force things. I’ve been in relationships I’ve forced, and guess what-it didn’t work. We put all this pressure on one person to be the source of our love. We put all of our eggs in their basket and then get stressed and sad when things didn’t work out.

I remember the first time I was in a relationship and felt a love I hadn’t experienced before. When it ended I was totally hurt and sad. I wasn’t dramatic enough to think I would never fall in love again, but that doesn’t stop you from hurting any less. And, as cliché as this sounds, it wasn’t until I stopped looking to fall in love that I found it again, only this time it happened in a different way.

I got that magical little love feeling again, but it wasn’t for a guy I was even interested in. I loved hanging out with him, but it was always purely platonic. I couldn’t understand why I felt love for him when I knew there would be no future. And then… something weird happened.

I started feeling that little love feeling a lot, and with different people. I felt a rush of love for friends, for co-workers, even for people I just met. And I’m not talking about that romantic love you see in rom-coms, I just mean a pure, genuine love for another being.

There are times I feel overwhelmed with love for others, and to be honest it’s awesome. I don’t feel like I need to settle in a relationship or to search for some guy to date because I’m already filled up with so much love and gratitude for the people around me. Maybe it sounds all weird and “new-agey”, but I don’t care. It’s the truth. And I think if we as women (or men) stop putting so much emphasis on “relationship love” and just focus on the love that’s around us, then we would all feel a lot happier and a lot more calm. There wouldn’t be this stress of the clock ticking away, wondering when your soulmate would waltz into your life.

You can just enjoy the ride of life and have fun with the people that come in to it. And the best part is, when you do find someone you really click with in a romantic sense, you won’t feel the need to cling to them because you know that even if things end, you’ll be just fine. We need to fill ourselves up with love and be grateful for the people who are already in our lives. We need to be in love with ourselves and with life because that’s when life really feels the most wonderful.

I wish you all so much love ❤

One of the most important travel tips I never read about before traveling

I love traveling. I love everything about it. I love packing, exploring new places, eating delicious food, and roaming around somewhere new and exciting. I devour blogs, articles, and tips that have anything to do with traveling, but one thing I never came across was this:

It matters a lot less where you go, and a lot more who you are with.

I’m sure this isn’t a new idea (well, I know it’s not) but I just see so many posts on “the tops ten items to have on your carry-on” and less about this simple, yet important point.

I have gone to beautiful places with people I didn’t totally click with, making an awkward trip I couldn’t wait to get home from.

And I’ve gone to extremely odd places, with nothing to do, but I was with people I completely adored.

The reason I want to travel isn’t so I can proudly pronounce all of the places I’ve gone and things I’ve done. I want to travel to enjoy the actual experience and fully live in the moment. And going on adventures with friends you love makes the experience so much more intense and intoxicating. Traveling really is about the journey, and it makes for a lot more fun and a lot of laughter if you have awesome people around you along the way!

listening to the signs: goodbye, bartending

For someone that always tells her friends, “listen to the signs the universe” it certainly took me sometime to listen to my own advice. For the last two years, I’ve been trying hard to make bartending work. It’s good money, it’s a fun environment, and you can just flirt around. But it kept seeming that my time doing it was over and I was ready for the next thing. I got some amazing friends and connections out of it, but when it was meant to be over I was gently ushered out.

But for some reason I fought to let it go. I knew deep down I was in the wrong place, but I was scared to let it go because I didn’t know what I would do instead. The universe gave me numerous signs it was time to leave, and I finally listened. I laid awake one night on my back while I stared up at the ceiling and I said:

“Alright, I give it up. But please guide me to what I’m supposed to be doing instead.”

And it did.

One thing I’ve learned is that, whether your answer comes the next second or in a week or in a month-it’ll come. And when it does, get ready, because it will be better than anything you could’ve imagined. I’m not sure where my path will go, but I know that as long as I follow the signs, I’ll be where I’m meant to be.

I love you all so much and hope you had the best night!

Much love–Callie ❤

an undiscussed reason why it’s important to follow your personal legend

Ahhh, The Alchemist… I’m pretty sure I’ve never heard anything but amazing things about this book. And honestly, I know why. It is one of the most inspiring novels out there. After reading it you feel like you can do anything, including following your heart and your dreams.

When we hear about people talking about why it’s important for you to follow your dreams, it usually is all about self-fulfillment, which is awesome! That’s one of the main topics of this blog. But I think something that is wildly important, that I hear less about, is this:

It’s important to follow your personal legend for not only yourself, but for all of the people you’ll inspire along the way.

I know it’s not your job to change anyone’s life, but by living out your dreams you give others a silent permission it’s okay for them to do the same.

And how cool of a gift to give someone is that? Everyone wins!

It’s the reason we love stories of people who quit their 9-to-5 job and dropped everything to travel, the reason we love stories of people who got their health in check and dropped tons of weight, or when someone got the courage to leave a bad relationship and then found their true love. We see singers on stage and picture ourselves in their shoes, singing to a giant audience, but that’s not what we truly are seeking. We see them living their dreams, which we yearn to also do.

“People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of.”-The Alchemist

We love underdog stories. We love the idea that we can be our own hero.

It is up to us to follow our hearts, to listen to our intuition and the signs from the universe, because in the end you, and the rest of the universe, will have benefited.

“When you want something, all the universe conspires to help you achieve it.”-The Alchemist