What Do You Feel Best Doing?

Good morning all ❤ I hope your days started off bright and sunny!

For awhile, I wondered why I didn’t really enjoy going out to bars every weekend and getting drunk. I wondered why I had more fun doing yoga or reading a good book, cooking or talking with friends. I felt like there was something wrong with the fact I wasn’t looking to party all the time. ( I know I probably write about this all the time, but oh well). Even when I did try it, it never quite cracked up to that Instagram version of fun (you know, the totally fake one, but still I think a small part of it believes it’s real on someee level).

But, the more I just follow my heart, the happier I am doing the simpler things. I have genuine fun in having deep conversations for hours, trying out new recipes, or doing yoga or walking outside. It’s almost summer now, and the air smells like a mix between bonfires and fresh bloomed flowers. When I am out there with that scent, feeling the warm air softly blowing against me, I feel peace and a huge rush of happiness. It’s simple, it doesn’t require thought, it is just beautiful, refreshing, and serene.

I am happy. And I find everyday happiness in the simplest things. I think we kind of miss out on seeing it sometimes, when our minds are racing and we are on a quest to find happiness. Our egos try to tell us happiness is this elaborate and complicated thing to come by, and that we have to be out doing crazy, picture perfect things in order to obtain it. We have to buy numerous things, have this many likes, have this many friends, be so exotic that you’ve traveled the country three times already… basically our egos tell us that enough is never enough, and that we are never enough.

And that’s why it’s so funny that there is such fulfillment and happiness in the simple, little things. It’s not about going off and doing something crazy, it’s about those midnight talks on the couch with someone you love, or the smell of coffee in the morning, the fresh air hugging your skin, the blueness of the sky. There is love, beauty, and happiness in those simple things. And maybe I just sound like a crazy hippie to you, and that’s cool I don’t really care. I’m just telling you about my experience.

Because I’ve been the girl who strived, strived, strived or more, more, more experiences but every time I was left feeling more depressed and unfulfilled. I’m finding more and more happiness in the little things, so I thought I’d share this so you can find them too.

And I just want to make it clear that I don’t think there is anything wrong with trying new things, traveling the world three times, or buying what you want. Those things can be fun, they just won’t fill up that feeling like enough will never be enough, because that’s an ego trap. Just listen to your heart, and know that you are already enough. When you fill filled up with love already, you don’t have to go out searching everywhere for it, it’s in you. So, then when you do go off on an adventure, you’ll already be happy, instead of going on a trip to prove something to yourself or to try to find happiness out there. (I’ve don’t that too, and the trips ended up not being fun at all).

Just know that you are enough. And that some of the most wonderful things in life are the simplest.

What do you feel your best doing?

Much love–Callie

One of the most important travel tips I never read about before traveling

I love traveling. I love everything about it. I love packing, exploring new places, eating delicious food, and roaming around somewhere new and exciting. I devour blogs, articles, and tips that have anything to do with traveling, but one thing I never came across was this:

It matters a lot less where you go, and a lot more who you are with.

I’m sure this isn’t a new idea (well, I know it’s not) but I just see so many posts on “the tops ten items to have on your carry-on” and less about this simple, yet important point.

I have gone to beautiful places with people I didn’t totally click with, making an awkward trip I couldn’t wait to get home from.

And I’ve gone to extremely odd places, with nothing to do, but I was with people I completely adored.

The reason I want to travel isn’t so I can proudly pronounce all of the places I’ve gone and things I’ve done. I want to travel to enjoy the actual experience and fully live in the moment. And going on adventures with friends you love makes the experience so much more intense and intoxicating. Traveling really is about the journey, and it makes for a lot more fun and a lot of laughter if you have awesome people around you along the way!

Don’t force: The story of a forced trip to Miami

I’m sure a lot of you can relate to me when I say that I want to travel the world. I want to go on adventures, swim with (nice, non-biting sharks), hear foreign languages, eat croissants next to the Eiffel Tower, tan on black-sand beaches, chat with locals in Australia, and have a great time living life. But something important I’ve learned is that a trip, just like a good time, or a relationship, should never be forced.

I wanted to travel so badly, to create memories and fun stories, that I went on a trip with a person that I didn’t vibe with on any level. But I wanted so much to start traveling and moving that I accepted to go on this trip even though things were a little off.

It wasn’t the trip that was the problem, it was my mind set. I didn’t want to go. What I wanted was crazy, unforgettable memories. I wanted to get away from the sadness I had been feeling. So, I went.

I remember the first night there I cried because I just wanted to be home.

And yeah, I know, poor me for going to Miami. I’m not trying to sound like a complete and total asshole (which I probably am) but my whole point of this article is that I don’t want you to make the same mistakes that I did.

DON’T FORCE ANYTHING.

Don’t try to mold a situation, person, or thing into what you want. It is what it is. You will have your dream life, but only when you let go of trying to control everything. If something doesn’t feel right in your gut, please listen. Don’t go places you don’t wanna go, don’t be with someone you don’t want to be with, and don’t say yes when you want to say no.

Follow your heart and the right opportunities will present themselves.

I’ve found that it matters a lot less where you are, if you are with the right people. If you go somewhere with someone you don’t really like, then the trip probably won’t be that fun. But you could be in the middle of nowhere with your with someone you love and you’d have an amazing time.

When I went to Miami with the wrong person, I had a terrible time. But when I went to Shreveport, Louisiana (a little place with nothing to really do), with my best friend, I had a great time. We could do literally anything together and we would have fun.

So, listen to your gut, surround yourself with people that are good for you, and you will have a happy life.

Much love–Callie ❤