The one small thing you can do to get you from where you are to where you want to be

Good morning all ❤

I’m almost finished reading The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy, and I can honestly say it’s one of the best books I’ve ever read. It’s simple and to the point, and in this post I’m going to share one of my favorite ideas from this book to help you reach your goals:

Tracking 1 trait.

The Compound Effect is all about how the little things add up. So, for example, say you wanted to run a marathon but you’re totally out of shape. When you think about the challenge ahead it can be so utterly daunting that you decide not to do the marathon all together, and then you’re probably going to go sit on the couch, watch mindless tv, and eat chips.

But, if you use The Compound Effect of tracking one trait, then you will be able to tackle any challenge. And this is how you do it:

1.) Decide on the goal you want to accomplish. It can be anything. Do you want to eat healthier? Read more books? Run a marathon? Increase flexibility? Spend more time with your partner? Pick out something you’ve been wanting to do for awhile, but that kept getting pushed to the back burner because you weren’t sure where to even start, or that the goal seemed to big to conquer.

2.) Get a piece of paper and start tracking that singular trait. If you want to eat healthier, then keep a food journal and be meticulous about what you write down. If you want to be better with your finances, track down where you’re spending your money… write down every cent that you spend. It’s simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. People get lazy. Don’t be lazy, if you’re going to track, then really track your goal. If your goal is to run a marathon, then decide to track your workouts. This way, at the end of the week you will be able to look back and see the habits you kept that week, and if it moved you further or closer to your goal.

Try this for thirty days and see the difference in your life.

10 Things I learned: James Altucher

I love learning. I love podcasts, books, inspirational videos, things on running your own business, relationships… everything and anything I find interesting. I love expanding my mind and awareness, and have this constant hunger to learn more. So, I decided to start a “10 Things I learned” list. After each book or podcast or whatever, I will write down the top 10 things I’ve learned, so you don’t have to go through hours of material and can get the best nuggets of advice quickly!

10 Things I learned: James Altucher

1.) To do a “10 things I learned list” after learning something new. Write down what you found most valuable and make sure you apply those things to your own life!

2.) Always have “plus, minus, and equal” people around you. The “plus” is people who you can learn from; mentors, YouTubers doing what you wanna do, podcasts, authors… anyone who will enhance you and help you get closer to your ideal life. Your “equal” people are those who are roughly on your same level of learning. People you can have friendly competition. And “minus” people are those whom you can teach. By teaching, we help solidify our own learning.

3.) Find out what you want you want to do in life, and surround yourself with people who are living that kind of life. If you don’t know anyone personally, seek them out online and fill your mind with their advice and tips on how they got to where they are.

4.) We are always in the process of reinventing ourselves, but we don’t realize it until we really decide what parts of ourselves/our lives we want to reinvent. Decide who you wanna be, who do you wanna be like, and then study people with those qualities.

5.) Live in the moment. Give up anything that is cluttering up your life/mind.

6.) If you’re interested in something, just go for it. Don’t ask for permission, ask for forgiveness.

7.) “End, fog, beginning”- Our transformation stories usually follow the same pattern of end, fog, beginning. The end of the old us, the person we used to be. The fog is the period of time we are trying to figure our who we are and what to do next in our lives.  And the beginning is the new us.

8.) Don’t charge for things in your business at first (if it’s like a blog or something). Just build a site with a lot of good content. Have a vision of what the ideal world would look like and write from that place (and make sure that you can reference it back to yourself personally).

9.) Post your articles on as many mediums as possible; Linkeden, Facebook, guest post, do podcasts, write a book, YouTube… get yourself out there as much as possible. Build an email list. Email list’s + a lot of good content = success.

10.) Try to “better” yourself 1% everyday in the health of your mind, body, spirit, and creativity. Obviously, “better” is subjective, so just base it off of whatever it means to you.

I hope you enjoyed this list and took something valuable away that will help you in creating a life you love!

Much love–Callie ❤

 

The Dollar Experiment

Good night all ❤

I decided I wanted to do something fun and exciting, and a bit… different, I suppose. I wanted to do the dollar experiment, which is something I came up with tonight. I want to take a portion of money (I decided on 10% of my next paycheck), and at the top write sweet little notes like “you are amazing” or “you are beautiful” or “have a magical day”, and then I want to walk around downtown and just hand it out to strangers as I’m walking.

I have absolutely no clue what their reactions will be, and I feel a tiny bit funny just approaching strangers and being like “hey here’s a dollar” but I figure I would totally love it if someone did it for me, so I’m going to do it and see how it goes! It’s called an experiment after all! I’m writing this at 11:01p.m. on 5/11/17, so I will update at the bottom of this post to show how it went!

Stop caring

Seriously, stop caring what people think. Stop caring what your ego is telling you. and start listening to your soul. Do what’s best for you, for your soul, and forget about other people. Stop trying to find a relationship and focus on yourself and your career. Have fun with life, make plans and then follow through. Stop thinking everything has to be permanemnt and just enjoy things in the moment.

If you’re seeing a guy, stop wondering where it will go and just enjoy his company for the time being. If you truly enjoy him in the present you will 1.) not settle, because if you are living in the present you wouldn’t want to spend time with someone you didn’t really care about 2.) you won’t stress where is this going… who cares! If you’re having fun with him, just enjoy it. Stop thinking everything has to end in permanence. It doesn’t. Have a blast with him, let him be him, and don’t try to change anything, Have your own life and own thing going on, just let him be like this fun little bonus.

Let people be who they are. If you like them, fantastic! Let them be in your life and enjoy the shit out of them. If you have a million things you wanna change about them, then why are you even hanging out with them?

Enjoy their company for the moment, love their being, and leave it at that. Don’t let your mind wander to where is this going, if he wants a relationship he will eventually ask, and if he doesn’t then why would you wanna force him into one anyway? Don’t you wanna be with someone who loves you for you and actually wants to be with you? And what does a relationship even mean? Can’t we just enjoy someones company without it having to be something grand? Just enjoy them for them and love them in the moment and don’t let your mind wander.

Society tells us that love means marriage, it means your with that person the rest of your life. It tells us (women especially) that we need to have a relationship to be fulfilled and happy. Butttt whyyy? Figure out how to take care of yourself before you expect someone else to come along. And if you do have an idea of your “ideal” mate, then make sure that you are the type of person that would attract a person like that.

The second you are done hanging out with them, go back to your own life. Hang out with your friends, read books, work on your career, eat healthy and stay active. Just let people roam the way they want to, the people who come back really want to be in your life and in your company, how cool is that?!

I could go on and on about this. I just feel like people put so much pressure on ourselves and each other. We think our lives are supposed to look the way society tells us, and that’s a bunch of BS. You don’t want to get married? Cool. You want a huge wedding with a pricess dress and tiara? Awesome. You want kids? Fun. You don’t want them? Great! We have to stop looking at what is best in societies eyes and just do what’s best for us. and this is whats best for me at the moment:

I’m enjoying the sh*t out of life. I am working towards all of my dreams that look more and more like reality every day. I don’t care if I have a relationship or not. For awhile I wanted one because I felt that’s what I was supposed to be doing. but honestly I don’t care. I want to travel, to have fun, to write and work towards my goals. Even if a guy comes into my life, I’d rather just enjoy him in the moments I was with him, to love him totally, and then let go of him and expectations once I left.

Let go of your expectations. Hitch your wagon to the present moment, to the best, happiest, healthiest version of yourself, to your goals. Love yourself, love others, and enjoy life. Stop overthinking, stop with the expectations, just let people be, and let yourself be. I promise your life will be happier because of it. When you stop trying to control everything and just flow with life, that’s when the magic occurs, that’s when all the good in life comes.

Write a list of all the things you wanna do, big and small. Want to learn a language? Go salsa and belly dancing? Go to Paris, Australia? Go on a roadtrip? Have fun with life without caring about the end results. Just do what you wanna do, and don’t care what others think. Be your most authentic self, and your life will be far beyond your wildest dreams.

Much love–Callie

What if you don’t fit in any “box”?

I’ve been feeling weird the last couple of days, but for some reason it seemed to hit its peak tonight. I’m guessing I’m overthinking, and I knowwww I should just focus on the present moment. But the present moment almost feels uncomfortable. I’ve got this pit in my stomach and a pit in my throat.

I just don’t feel like I fit in anywhere clearly. Like, I know we aren’t our stereotypes, and we don’t have to fit into any one box, but sometimes it doesn’t feel that way. You can read a lot of spiritual books and be aware of the fact you should be living in the present and just enjoy life, but it’s funny how the ego can coax us back into identifying with it.

My ego, for awhile, has despretly tried to find a home. It wanted to build up this grand image of itself. And no matter what I did, I never felt like it was enough. I tried to be sporty-that failed and I didn’t like it one bit. I tried going out and drinking a bunch, that wasn’t really me either. I tried just staying in and cooking, but I was missing the social aspects of things. In relationships I like making the other person feel as amazing as possible, but for some reason that was sometimes seen as weak. I felt like no matter what I tried, my ego wasn’t happy with it. On the outside I was happy and carefree, but inside I was filled with this strange feeling like anxiety.

The truth is (and maybe this is obvious to all of you but for some reason my ego can’t comprehend), I don’t think any of us fit into one box. I think people can have tons of different interests. I think it’s okay to have different passions, hobbies, to try one thing this week and a new thing the next. I don’t think any of it really matters. I think the most important part is you do what feels good for you, for your soul, and not your ego.

Don’t let your mind mess up a beautiful day by overthinking it. Just enjoy life. Don’t worry about if you seem to fit in somewhere, just do you and the right people and circumstances will come along. You will be taken care of, but you need to drop all of the things you think you are supposed to do, and start doing the things you actually enjoy. And if you don’t know what you enjoy, go and try different things. Action will remove doubt, not overthinking something. If you don’t know what you are into, go make a list of everything you think you might like and start checking them off one by one. You don’t have to mark them all off in one day, take your time with it and have fun.

I hope this helped anyone that may have needed it. I hope you all have a wonderful night!

 

-Callie ❤

You have more than one “soul mate”

I’ve never really understood the concept of a “forever person” or “your one soul mate”. Even when I was younger, the idea that there is one special person you’re supposed to find, marry, and then grow old with seemed exhausting. I was only like eight when I remember thinking how tiring it would be to scour every corner of the world trying to find them. The idea seemed scary, unappealing, and stressful, so I put it out of my mind.

But that message never really leaves our minds. Instead, it seems to grow bigger as we grow older. We are constantly bombarded with messages from the media and society that it’s essential to find your soul mate and one true love, but I don’t buy any of that. I don’t think there is just one single person out there for us. There are billionssss of people in this world, and we are supposed to honestly think there is only one match for us?

I don’t doubt that there are soul connections, because I’ve felt them. I’ve gotten that little flutter in my gut when I met someone and felt like I already knew them. But that feeling wasn’t limited to relationships with guys. I’ve had that feeling with friends I’ve met, people I’ve worked with, and yes-even some intimate relationships. But, just because I got that feeling didn’t mean I wanted to tie them down and claim them as mine, because that didn’t seem quite right either.

I think it’s a lot easier to flow with life instead of trying to force things. I’ve been in relationships I’ve forced, and guess what-it didn’t work. We put all this pressure on one person to be the source of our love. We put all of our eggs in their basket and then get stressed and sad when things didn’t work out.

I remember the first time I was in a relationship and felt a love I hadn’t experienced before. When it ended I was totally hurt and sad. I wasn’t dramatic enough to think I would never fall in love again, but that doesn’t stop you from hurting any less. And, as cliché as this sounds, it wasn’t until I stopped looking to fall in love that I found it again, only this time it happened in a different way.

I got that magical little love feeling again, but it wasn’t for a guy I was even interested in. I loved hanging out with him, but it was always purely platonic. I couldn’t understand why I felt love for him when I knew there would be no future. And then… something weird happened.

I started feeling that little love feeling a lot, and with different people. I felt a rush of love for friends, for co-workers, even for people I just met. And I’m not talking about that romantic love you see in rom-coms, I just mean a pure, genuine love for another being.

There are times I feel overwhelmed with love for others, and to be honest it’s awesome. I don’t feel like I need to settle in a relationship or to search for some guy to date because I’m already filled up with so much love and gratitude for the people around me. Maybe it sounds all weird and “new-agey”, but I don’t care. It’s the truth. And I think if we as women (or men) stop putting so much emphasis on “relationship love” and just focus on the love that’s around us, then we would all feel a lot happier and a lot more calm. There wouldn’t be this stress of the clock ticking away, wondering when your soulmate would waltz into your life.

You can just enjoy the ride of life and have fun with the people that come in to it. And the best part is, when you do find someone you really click with in a romantic sense, you won’t feel the need to cling to them because you know that even if things end, you’ll be just fine. We need to fill ourselves up with love and be grateful for the people who are already in our lives. We need to be in love with ourselves and with life because that’s when life really feels the most wonderful.

I wish you all so much love ❤

It’s awesome to feel good

Eating healthy has so many amazing benefits. I love having energy, clear skin, strong hair, and waking up feeling refreshed.

I remember I used to have chronic fatigue. I could get ten hours of sleep at night, then wake up tired, and want four naps a day before inevitably passing out quickly at night. I wasn’t lazy, I was exhausted, and confused, because I knew I was getting tons of sleep, so why on earth would I be tired?

The answer: my diet.

Food has such a ridiculous impact on our lives. It really is the thing you need to focus on if you want to get your health in order. Physical exercise is definitely important, but if you are going to change one thing about your current lifestyle, let it be the way you eat.

I will start making more posts on what I eat in a day, and I will be starting a YouTube channel where you can find tips and quick, easy recipe ideas. I’m not one to want to spend a lot of time in the kitchen if I don’t have to, so I like things that are delicious and quick and full of nutrients. I just want you to feel good and amazing. It may seem like a long process now, but if you stick with it, I promise it’ll be worth it ❤